The Development of Behavioural

Posted June 9th, 2020 in Article, Gallery

Fatchuri Rosidin (IG @fatchuri_fatah)
Inspirational Director Crossing the Ages

Successful people have characteristics. Not the physical, not the palm, but the habit. Steven Covey discovered 7 effective habits in successful people. Thomas Stanley released 100 success factors. Effective habits rule the top ten. So having effective habits becomes the dream of many people.

The question most asked to me in habit formation training classes is: what are the habits of successful people? how long does it take to form the habit? This time, I will answer the second question.

We start from a plastic surgeon named Maxwell Maltz who observes the behavior of his amputated patients. He found that his patients needed at least 21 days to adapt to the loss of his limbs. Maltz concluded, humans need at least 21 days to form new habits.

Philippa Lally, a health psychology researcher from University College London, is also interested in conducting experiments to find out how long it takes to form a habit. The results vary depending on the complexity of the habit. 18 days at the fastest. Maximum 254 days. 2 months on average. Exactly 66 days.

If you want to form positive new habits, be prepared to do so for at least 21 days. 2 months safe. If the habit is difficult, it takes even longer. The question: are we ready for that long? Are we patient? It takes sincerity and patience to do it. It will be lighter if we do it with other people.

Muslims throughout the world have just completed a long training in mass habit formation. Together with 1 billion other people. Not just any habit, but habits that are often found in healthy and successful people: wake up early, maintain a healthy diet, fill their time productively, eliminate vain activities, and practice empathy by sharing. That is the custom that was formed during Ramadan.

Fortunately for Muslims. God conditions the atmosphere so that his people have the opportunity to improve their living habits. The atmosphere supports to do a lot of good. The reward is multiplied. Means of worship available. Lots of momentum. The benchmark is from the prophet Muhammad. Not difficult to do it.

So this year’s Ramadan I am sure many have recorded achievements. There are those who complete the Koran many times, the annual recitation of the night, or alms that are so light-handed. Some can stop bad habits, reduce food consumption, and adopt a healthy lifestyle. And at the end of the month, we celebrate this achievement. In fact, the real test has just begun.

We have just passed the first phase of forming the 21-day habit. Just passed it a little. 30 days. Not strong enough to stay a habit. We need to reach the average time of habit formation: 2 months.

The first days of Shawwal we usually wake up at the same time as is the custom in Ramadan. It was a trace of the formation of the first stage of habits. That biological clock is stored in the memory of our brains. Unfortunately we only wake up to turn off the alarm and sleep again. Broken a week, lost is a habit. Also the habit of maintaining a healthy diet and eating patterns. A month of formation was destroyed at the feast of Eid.

That may be the wisdom we are encouraged to fast 6 days in Shawwal. More important on days 2 to 7 Shawwal. So that habits that form in Ramadan are not damaged. The week after Ramadan was a critical moment of missing or enduring habits. We need to keep it throughout the month of Shawwal so that it even becomes 2 months. That’s where we will reap new habits.

The Prophet Muhammad even gave an extraordinary example. Two months before Ramadan, the formation of the habit had already begun. He reduced sleep, increased worship, alms, and other positive deeds while praying, “O Allah, bless us in the month of Rajab and Shaytan, and deliver us until Ramadan.”

So, if you want to have successful habits, Muslims need to imitate the Prophet. Do not dissolve in the euphoria of Eid. One day is enough. After that, continue the positive habits again: sleep early, wake up in the morning, knock on the door of God with worship, fill time productively, avoid vain words and deeds, and share a lot with others. END

Cross Age Inspiration (IMZ Consulting) is a social enterprise institution that helps business and social organizations in the fields of leadership, human resource development and community empowerment based on spiritual values.

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